Mental Brick Wall

 

In the past One year plus, I set out to lose 80kg (so help me God)

Then I lost half of it...

Before hitting a brick wall

I attribute my set back of 8kg on completely losing my head

I cannot tell you how many times over the course of the past 3 or more months, I have tried to get back “on track”

I have tried so many times that it became exhausting, depressing, and downright ANNOYING that I could not seem to make it stick.

I felt as if I was right back to where I used to be.  Waking up with clear resolve and utterly failing before 9 am.

Losing 2kg today and adding it the next week.

Looking back, I have to search for what happened and what led me down into the pit again.

It is only in analyzing the trail of setbacks  that we can work our way backwards to see where we went astray.

And then move forward in an effort to avoid those same brick wall!

So after much analysis, I’ve identified my top mental brick walls  I’ve encountered along the way that caused me to backslide.

Here we go…

 

 

 

16 weeks pregnant

 

 

Am 16 weeks pregnant!

Tell me do I look it or I just look fat! :(

Am so sad right now cos my tummy isnt showing it

But I am just looking round.

But am happy anyways lol

I have my strength back!

I can now walk and I feel good

Though sometimes tired

But i guess it comes with big belle, lol

12 weeks already

So I have been seeing my doctor regularly

Its 12 weeks only but it feels like 38 weeks

I feel really sleepy allllllllllllll the time

I sleep at any convenient place or time

And its so annoying since my kids are at the stage that they need to be looked after.

I love being pregnant, but I love it when am showing

So now people see me and i could from their eyes, saying "isn't she supposed to be losing weight"

And I cannot just walk up to everyone and say "hi, am pregnant but you cant actually see it"

Its so frustrating.

I tried to push myself to walk this week

I notice i don't sweat that much, guess is the water retention thingy

And i did some stretches

Thats all I could do.

I have been eating basically salads, fruits and fish

Yet am adding... I feel damned.

Well I have already put on 2kg.

Its well shaa.

After this baby I will lock up,

Since I know that my body is touch and follow :D

 

It must end in praise

We are Pregnant!

We found out some weeks ago that we are pregnant!

It wasnt planned but we are glad, I have always wanted to have all my kids before 30,

Maybe this is God's way of answering me, My last prayer now is that I hope its a girl!

Not like I don't like boys, Hey! i have two, but i will really love to have a girl.

I wont lie to you, I was really scared when I knew I was expecting

I felt all my hardwork have gone down the drain.

I wondered if i would ever recover.

The first two days was war, I was battling with myself.

But then, I prayed to God and he reminded me that its his doing and its marvelous to our eyes!

Well, I have added some weight like 1.5kg

My First trimester has been a drag

I get tired so easily

I feel like sleeping all the time.

Never had these symptoms with my first two so am assuming its a girl :)

But at the end of the day all pregnancies arent the same.

I will keep you guys updated.

Really, please pray for me.

 

What's your excuse?

So what's your excuse today?
What stories are you cooking up in your head right now as an assurance to yourself?

Weigh in day! Yes am back!

Its the 42nd day! yeaay!
Omg! i have been so occupied. My nanny took a weekend off and its taking a big toll on me, but i have been managing anyways, but not enough to have "me" time to blog. I have been terribly busy with these kids and all that could get to my head is how did my grandma manage in taking care of 11 kids after her husband died at an early age? I will never know cos she is gone, may the souls of all the faithful departed RIP.

More after the cut...



So I weighed in this week and I lost 4.4kg!
Yes! actually lost some "good" weight after 2weeks of almost poor weight loss.
Thanks to my cambridge weight plan and my ever busy hyper kids phew! (muah love you guys).
Am so thrilled I have done a come back!
I have so much energy now than I can ever remember.
My level of activity in a day is growing and I don't get tired so easily.
Am so happy ... My hubby is so happy we are working on the weight.
And I really want to thank him for loving me just the way I am and being there for me every step of the way, "obim, you can't imagine how much i appreciate you and adore you, you are the wind within my wings and love you unconditionally"

For all those sending me those beautiful wishes, you don't know what you guys are doing to my self confidence, I will forever hold you guys dear to my heart.

Next week is before and after photos week, looking forward to it too! *winks*

Hubby is back, let him manage the kids ( trust him on this) while I rush to market...
Will be back soon people, won't stay long in the market cos I hate shopping one of the things fatness caused.

Sleep blogging

Really planned on blogging today but mehn today has been so busy. From morning till now.
Had a tight schedule at work, my nanny took some days off so I was left with joggling two kids and you know how tasking and demanding they are especially at there age.
It's really been a long evening from bathing to feeding then to prepping them to sleep to getting ready for work the list continues...
Tried not to cheat with all this happening around me, and yes am keeping my head above water. Took my 3 meals and all

So am actually sleep blogging good night before I write ... Tfcfdtacmo

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Sleep blogging

Really planned on blogging today but mehn today has been so busy. From morning till now.
Had a tight schedule at work, my nanny took some days off so I was left with joggling two kids and you know how tasking and demanding they are especially at there age.
It's really been a long evening from bathing to feeding then to prepping them to sleep to getting ready for work the list continues...
Tried not to cheat with all this happening around me, and yes am keeping my head above water. Took my 3 meals and all

So am actually sleep blogging good night before I write ... Tfcfdtacmo

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What is your point of reference

Let the word in you constantly drown the word you hear around you

The Fat around my waist

So i have to vent alittle just give me some air! am really boiling with thoughts!
you see, loosing weight can be tricky, the parts that you would really want to start seeing visible difference are usually that part the crawls in weight loss!
For me it's my arm and waist turned tummy. I have lost a considerable weight that should be visible but isn't because of the massive fat i still need to loose, when people look at me they first glance at my waist then my arm before they look at my face and say "wow you have lost some weight, your face looks trimmer" like they are trying really hard to convince themselves with the words they utter and am like seriously??? After all the hardwork am putting through?
You know, people expect a lot from others but little from themselves they feel good being at the other end, poking and suggesting but not wondering what impact there words can be. Hey! Am not a saint, but I believe in giving people a chance and not just once.
I have tasted weight loss failure a lot of times and I know that look and also that unspoken reaction/gesture emanating from that body language.
It's not easy on me so don't make it harder! Atleast you have noticed the face, am working on me so cheer on and give me time, am not close to being there but surely moving ahead.

Am already at war with "fat" so let me fight my battle one at a time... Walks away ...

The Fat around my waist

So i have to vent alittle just give me some air! am really boiling with thoughts!
you see, loosing weight can be tricky, the parts that you would really want to start seeing visible difference are usually that part the crawls in weight loss!
For me it's my arm and waist turned tummy. I have lost a considerable weight that should be visible but isn't because of the massive fat i still need to loose, when people look at me they first glance at my waist then my arm before they look at my face and say "wow you have lost some weight, your face looks trimmer" like they are trying really hard to convince themselves with the words they utter and am like seriously??? After all the hardwork am putting through?
You know, people expect a lot from others but little from themselves they feel good being at the other end, poking and suggesting but not wondering what impact there words can be. Hey! Am not a saint, but I believe in giving people a chance and not just once.
I have tasted weight loss failure a lot of times and I know that look and also that unspoken reaction/gesture emanating from that body language.
It's not easy on me so don't make it harder! Atleast you have noticed the face, am working on me so cheer on and give me time, am not close to being there but surely moving ahead.

Am already at war with "fat" so let me fight my battle one at a time... Walks away ...

Thank you Guys!!! "Confidence rolls in!" Over 10,000 Veiws!!!



Thank You guys!

 Thank you guys am so grateful... BUT START COMMENTING NAA.... BIKO!!!
I just checked and i saw that i have more than 10,000 views... it may be small to the "big guys" but my Oga at the top knows its something huge to me and am so grateful!

There is something i have been battling to tell you guys, normally i should have added it to my to do list but i feel very ashamed to do so, not anymore! and well there is no need to add it to my to do list cos i have accomplished it!

Read my story after the cut ...


So i have been learning how to drive... yes asin drive... alot of people will go like "seriously???? Nelly? a whole you?! ... lol its a half me ... lol
Well yes and this is not because i dont have a car or cant get a trainer to teach me the scopes, its just about me and my lost confidence which am getting back.... it affected everything even getting behind the wheel!

After the birth of my first child, i tried learning how to drive but i stopped because of two things;
I was learning with a small golf car from the training school and it was just too difficult fitting in properly on the seat, so i got really very discouraged.
Secondly, the seats just cant be adjusted! and i freaking hate manual!
Now am learning again after my second child and though i felt like quitting but i felt i can do this and i put in all my willpower in to it.

Hubby was the one that advised i learn with manual gear that it helps in moulding one into being a better driver. So i tried, and i made it! to gear 2 anyway and managed to convince him that am ready to learn with our car.. lol

In the past week i have actually been driving, i went to Ikorodu road... the very busy Ojota, and 3rd third mainland! am so happy not because am going places of course thats a plus but because for a long time in my life that i can rememeber my "confidence" is streaming back in, Yes alot of people tell me naa nelly infact you are one of those very confident ladies i have ever known but they never know how i struggle everyday within me to be that jovial, bubbly person who is all smiles and laughs in the surface...

As i said, am not close to being there yet, but truly loving the results, Now am driving, next week i should be cycling .... Oh yes! ... and it will end in praise!

Do you have a weight loss story to share? email me or follow me on twitter.

April fools day!

Hahaha  got ya!

Don't worry one day I will really be on moments with mo *winks*

Follow me on twitter @nebogu and keep loosing the weight!

Muah!

Dieting in Lagos,Nigeria

So I got a message from one of my readers asking how I manage to diet in Lagos considering the hostel and bustle of Lagos. And my answer is simple... "Na God"

But the truth remains that I still need to do the physical work. I tell myself the truth and that's simple, the time to start is now... Not tomorrow not after Easter or public holidays .... Am starting now and amazed on how strong willed I have been afterwards. I see myself doing what I thought was earthly impossible.
Like I have mentioned earlier, I have changed my lifestyle, instead of driving down to my son's school, I walk down there and it may seem pretty easy to others but I have never done that in my life.
Now I appreciate my body the more, and am so sorry for putting it in so much stress and am willing to make amends...infact I wrote a letter to "body" will post soon.

I know Lagos and nigeria as a whole is hectic but we have to leave, it's only a fool that will be told to die and will ask ways to to die (remixing the adage lol).

So my daily routine begins with me waking by 4am to start my hectic journey, go through traffic and settle my son at school before settling at work, and then go through my stressful day at work, pick my child and then head for home get ready for the next day and then the cycle continues, that was why I actually started the diet, it gives me time to "eat" right in my sedentary day to day life.

Yes my dear, it's so possible to diet in nigeria admist the hectic lifestyle just do the following:

Plan, plan, plan: this can never be over emphasized,when you are coordinated with self you will be surprised the long way this can go.

Have a motivator: it could be anything, mine is to wear bum shorts to shoprite! Of course with hubby by myside ... Lol but this is one of my many motivations

Be committed: commitment is not the same as being interested you need to reaaaaalllllly want it from the depth of your soul, that will stem up will power and discipline.

No excuses: stop giving yourself 1001 reason why you can't,  you not the first mother, single lady, wife, or working person

Keep at it: don't give up, you may not see results but always remember it will take 4 weeks to notice a change, 8 weeks for close family to see it an 12weeks for the world to notice. So no giving up.

Meanwhile I have survived Easter! Phew!!!

Do you have more ideas? Please share with us

Guest post/interview - Uju Ogbogu's weight loss journey

Today's guest post/interview is about Uju Ogbogu, my weight loss buddie! Yeay!
She is one of the most strongwilled people i have ever known, infact, her determination is just top notch.
she started her journey seven weeks ago and has lost 15kg!
Not yet on her goal weight but truly working hard on it.

Please read her story after the cut...

Tell us a little about yourself?

My name is Uju Ogbogu, married with a daughter. I live and work in Abuja, Nigeria.

How long did i take you to get to your ideal weight? Are you there now?

I am in my 7th week of cambridge diet and have lost 15kg. My target is 79 kg.Was weighing 102kg and presently am 87kg. Standing at 5ft 7. 102kg was just ridiculous

What was your motivation to lose weight?
Needed to look good (lol!!!).

What made you decide to start your weight loss journey?
I actually had a bet with my husband. He told me I couldn't do it.

Any embarrassing moments?
Yes oh! Plenty sef  But the one that really stood out for me was when some one saw me at a bank and said "ah! Madam! Again?! Congrats oh! wetin people de find, you just de get am anyhow! Your Oga na strong man oh!" I just bowed my head in shame I wasn't pregnant but I looked 8 months gone!

What kept you on track losing weight?
I have a wonderful weigh loss buddies.. For me the Saturday weighing was it. I no wan carry last.

Why cambridge diet?

Firstly to lose weight you have to eat the right mix of food, that is the right diet and at the right time.For most people who are on the big side and want to loss weight, going by this dietary program is extremely difficult.Cambridge diet bridges that gap of eating the right mix of food at the right time within a busy work schedule.The result you get in terms of weight loss is phenomenal.And let's not forget that in terms of staying healthy and weight loss, what you eat gives u 95% percent and the gym gives you just 5%.So its Cambridge diet all the way because the results are there for you to see.

What is the biggest difference you have noticed because of your weight loss?

The biggest difference is that am much more healthier, have a fantastic shape, my clothes fit better, more confidence,am smarter and fitter just to name a few.

What advice can you give to others struggling to lose weight?

JUST START!!!
Cambridge diet all the way because it gives you that easy foundation for a long term journey to your WISH of getting to that body size u so much desire and most importantly getting healthy.

Do you consult now?

Yes I consult for Cambridge weight plan in Abuja Nigeria.That shows u how much confidence I have in this weight plan.Its a case of practising what you preach.

How can one get in touch with you if interested?

Please feel free to call me anytime on 08091226945 or email me on ujuste@yahoo.co.uk

Give us a quote or a motto that you have used to keep you focused.

Health is wealth and life is for the living make the best out of life while u are alive.

Do you want to feature in my guest post/interview? Please send me an email

Happy Easter- guest posts

This is the time to celebrate Jesus as he has risen but not a time to "celebrate" food!
He is the reason for the season so lets not deviate from that, infact we need to make him our focus and pray that we "rise" in this weight loss journey of ours.

I will be starting guest posts featuring people who have reached their ideal weight loss goal or getting there so please if you have any story or know someone who is willing to share their story kindly ask them to send me an email or call me or a message on twitter @nebogu

I for one could do with more inspiration.

Easter excuses...

So Easter Sunday is less than 24hrs and there is a lot of reason to look the other way and cheat...
Ah! It's not easy at all ... Choi! "Oya Nelly focus"

You see in my own very selfish way, I will like to lock myself up in one room and hide away from all the beautiful sweeties that the Easter eat outs and in could bring just to make sure I just don't cheat but am not alone in this world... I have to still perform my duties as a mum, wife and blogger (lol).
I cannot possibly have the alone time I will crave to have tomorrow for the fear of not cheating.

I even got a mail from a blogger asking me "nelly what happens tomorrow, are you goner cheat?" She went on to tell me that she needs to know so that she could cheat???
Sound weird right? That's why I say it's no longer about me anymore.
Truthfully I would have love to take a bite of something just anything but this lady's mail was just timing.
It made me think about my actions which I have chosen to forget tomorrow and just let loose alittle after all no one will know. But I will, and am accountable (well I feel that way) to this lady who I do not know but looks up to me for her inspiration.
I have tried not to allow my focus shift base, and I tell you every second, am on a constant battle with  myself.
Trying to choose the right option all the time even though they are NOT favourites!

So tomorrow I have decided to do the following

• Remind myself Easter comes every year! So there are so many to celebrate with my slim me.
• Be brutally honest with myself
• Go to church! Speak to my fat to loose and speak to my "self" to obey.
• Cook meals for my family but get a tester (hubby loves ths job)
• And remember why I started this journey I mean literally speak it aloud at any time I can.
• Plan always!

Let see how tomorrow pans out but for now, dear reader am not even close to cheating....

It will end in praise!!!