I get to hear that countless times in different dimensions!
"You are so pretty, if only you could loose some weight"
"You have a baby face, all you need is to shed some weight"
"Aww those pretty smile, glowing teeth, long hair, smooth skin, cute dimples (phew!), just loose some weight to compliment them all"
"You maybe overweight but you are so pretty"
Ok, ok! Got the message, I got a pretty face, thank you very much.
I could go on for days on how I feel whenever such is mentioned but I chose to smile and swallow the big pill stuck in my throat.
I go out with my sisters to TFC to have a meal (by the way I have models as sisters) but am the focus of attention irrespective of how "healthy" my plate looks...
But my sisters could order and they sure do eat a lot more than I do but never face the physical fat stigma.
When I weighed in before starting this journey, I was in my safe and comfortable zone and knew things had to change especially my routine.
I loved being at home, shying away from parties or weddings, I am always the first person to buy the aso ebi but always the first to give an excuse at the last minute. My social anxiety was overwhelming but it's not healthy, I chose avoidance over courage and did not give myself or my vibrant personality the opportunity to glitter.
So if you are big or small try to look past the fat pretty face.
I will keep my social anxiety buried 6ft down and wear my my motivation on my "chest" and will power on my "face".
All in all, am making an effort give me a chance ...
If you can,yes I can,yes we will. Be encouraged!
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